When an adult child lives at home, conflict can grow quickly when parents and adult children are working from expectations they have never actually discussed.
This educational self-assessment helps parents explore whether expectations around household responsibilities, financial contribution, privacy, guests, communication, boundaries, and independence are clear—or whether assumptions are creating unnecessary frustration. You’ll also look at the difference between reasonable household expectations and trying to control an adult child’s personal choices.
Based on concepts explored in They’re Home… Now What? — Parenting After College, this guide helps families move from unspoken expectations and repeated arguments toward clearer adult-to-adult conversations about what living together actually requires.
Includes education, real-life examples, a self-assessment with score interpretation, practical exercises, and reflection questions to help parents identify unclear expectations, reduce assumptions, and create greater clarity when an adult child is living at home or receiving ongoing parental support.

