Understand the Hidden Rules Driving Disappointment, Conflict, and Resentment
Many relationship conflicts are not caused by what actually happens — but by unspoken expectations and unchecked assumptions. When expectations are not clearly communicated and assumptions are treated as facts, misunderstandings, emotional reactions, and resentment can quietly build.
 
This Expectations & Assumptions Self-Assessment is designed to help you identify the internal rules, beliefs, and interpretations that shape how you respond to others. It explores how often you expect people to “just know” what you need, how rigid or flexible your expectations are, and how assumptions about intent, meaning, and self-worth influence emotional reactions and communication.
 
The goal of this assessment is awareness and responsibility, not blame. Expectations and assumptions often develop as coping strategies shaped by past relationships, attachment patterns, family dynamics, and cultural conditioning. When left unexamined, they can distort communication, escalate conflict, and create ongoing disappointment.
 
This self-assessment is educational, not diagnostic, and is meant to support personal reflection, healthier communication, and deeper insight into recurring relationship patterns.